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I’m often asked prior to a call or at the start of a phone fantasy session; “What should I call you?”. Consider this post one of those ‘phone sex etiquette 101‘ lessons.
You may call Me Scarlet.
That is always acceptable at the start of our relationship. Did you notice that I said ‘at the start’? That’s because things will change over time; including how you might address Me or even how I will be addressing you.
Here are some other examples (these are just examples; remember that our relationship is different and I will decide what I want you to call Me). What they all have in common is full respect, adoration and attention to the importance of how you address Me.
Mistress: if you reveal to Me that you are a submissive male seeking to serve; I will insist that you call Me Mistress Scarlet or simply; Mistress during our sessions. If you are into BDSM, D/s or fetish; Mistress is certainly the perfect name for Me. I can be your lifestyle Mistress or your Fantasy Mistress.
Enchantrix or Empress: All of the beautiful ladies at LDW are addressed as Enchantrix; it’s a ‘cover-all’ term that is fitting for all of us. Again; this is in the beginning – your name will change.
Goddess or Queen: A term of endearment for a female that you want to pay attention to; perhaps worshiping My body if I allow it. (the term ‘queening chair‘ comes from this name in terms of facesitting).
Princess or Miss: For those men that enjoy pampering and spoiling Me or truly just want to adore Me.
Cuckoldress: I think you know what this name means. If I am to become your cuckold trainer; you will call Me your Cuckoldress.
Owner: This is a very rarely used term. Only used by a very select few. It will mean that I truly own you. This takes time; years even before I can take ownership of a slave. This can also be used in terms of chastity; if I have locked your cock up – then I truly am your owner.
There are so many others that I haven’t listed here – lady, humiliatrix, courtesan, domme, cocktease, dominatrix, etc.
What’s right for us? What will be the perfect term for you to address Me with? Let’s talk and find out.
By the way………….My next blog post will be called: What would you like Me to call you?
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I often have an odd (at least I think it is) internal impulse (sometimes not all the time) when I am speaking to a dominant woman. I physically feel like I want to say “Mam” or call her “Mam”. It is easier to say in a phone call to your service but even there I can feel like I sound odd and maybe it is not understood that it is a sort of impulse. Out in public in the World it can come up too and there it can be awkward. I have no idea how this got in me or where it comes from though I assume childhood. It is weird that saying a word can feel “right”. Should I tell a Mistress about this or ask about it or what is the right way to bring it up if at all?
It does make sense. I think here we all understand that the relationship must be established; so asking us how we’d like to be addressed (during a call; not via email) is welcomed. In a real time session; I think the same way. You also can just use a term that you ‘feel’ is right and if she doesn’t appreciate it; she will surely correct you.
I always start with ‘Empress’ on EE/LDW as a catch all, unless I see that the woman in question has shown a preference to something else.
The others you mention, Mistress, Goddess, Princess, etc all show deference to the woman and I have no problem with using them. But the one that gets to me most is ‘Miss’.
While the others can imply superiority by being older, or more experienced or being in a higher social position, etc., ‘Miss’ implies that she is younger than me and that she probably has no call of being superior to me, other than being female!
And it’s that concept, that I am submitting to a woman purely and simply because she is a woman, which makes using the title ‘Miss’ so powerful to me!
Ms. Scarlet, I love this post and just how succinctly you have outlined all of the possible ways that a client might consider addressing you! I am sure that many of the Mistresses are asked this question time and time again (I know that I certainly have) and I think it would be especially helpful if they read this wonderful post of yours!! And my one clear take away from what you’ve written…it’s ALL about the relationship. I really think it always is. 🙂
I’m not exactly sure why, but Miss Rachel seems like the perfect fit for Me, in pretty much all situations. Mistress Rachel, and many of the others, seem to take too long to trip off of the tongue. “Mistress” by itself even seems to take too long, the one exception being that I love to hear “Please Mistress, may I cum” during an edging session, even though a boy knows ahead of time the answer will be no. *giggle*